MySQL GRUPPE VED...AT HAVE forskellige værdier samme felt

Brug

HAVING sum(ea.gender = 'female') > 0 
   AND sum(ea.gender = 'male') > 0

eller

HAVING count(distinct ea.gender) = 2

BTW, du bør bruge en underforespørgsel til at få alle data, når du grupperer.

SELECT * 
FROM events
where id in
(
    SELECT events.id 
    FROM events
    LEFT JOIN event_attendances ON (events.id = event_attendances.event_id)
    GROUP BY events.id
    HAVING count(distinct event_attendances.gender) = 2
)